I have a serious question. My daughter is unhappy on her team. The only reason we haven't quit is because I paid for the year in full a few months ago because she was happy. Well our gym made some drastic changes and now she wishe she could leave.
She LOVES cheer and his been doing it for so long. There is another gym locally that has a team she could be on becasue she tried out and made a higher level at that gym but we decided to go where we are currently at and are now having regrets. Would it be wrong to cheer for both All Star teams.
Their practices would not interfere since they practice opposite days and neither would competitions, they do not go to any of the same competitions. Would that be wrong to do. I mean honestly my daughter is at the gym 5 days a week at her current gym. I need to know if this would be crossing the line
My opinion is that yes, it would be crossing the line and is not a good idea. I think it's odd that both gyms are not going to the same competitions (not even one)? That means one gym has chosen competitions that most others are not going to, I would think. I know that others cheer for both high school and all stars, but that's not the same as cheering for two all star gyms. The fact that your considering it means she will not be giving her all to the gym she is not happy with, and that's unfortunate for her entire team.
If you're going to join another gym, I think you need to just leave the first one. Or give the first one a chance, the season is early (unless you know for sure it will not work out). Chuck it up as a learning experience and leave (and do so before competitions start). I know I would not want my daughter on a team (and remember, it's a team) who has a member that is so unhappy she wants to leave, or is so unhappy that she's joined another gym where she also cheers, where she is more dedicated, works harder, cares if they win, etc... etc... Just my 2 cents on the matter.
If you can afford to pay for another program, save yourself gas money, time, effort, homework time, food, stress, travel costs, etc and just quit the first gym. Go to the other gym.
What happens if your daughter were to get injuried? This would hurt both teams. I don't know...I really think that the girls on her teams would find out and then her established relationships in the first gym and possibly the second would be ruined. You and your daughter really need to choose the right gym for your daughter.
To many times...people jump from gym to gym and never find a comfortable environment for their daughter. You're daughter is probably a great kid. The cheer world is very small. When coaches hear that you are jumping to a different gym every year then coaches start asking "why isn't this person ever happy?". Is it the parent, is it the cheerleader, is it that they are running from something? Speculations run wild and it only hurts your daughter in the end.
What ever happened to teaching your child to FINISH WHAT THEY STARTED ! Why dont you use this as a learning oppurtunity for your child. Teach them that life (insert future job(s) here ) isn't always going to be fair.
Letting your child quit would be setting a bad example for her.
before you make any brash decisions, why is it that your daughter is suddenly unhappy at her current gym?
have you tried talking to the gym directors or coaches?
Is it a problem she is having? Or are you the one unhappy?
If you are going to leave a gym and pull out of your contract so heavy into choreography season, then by all means do it, but respect your current team and leave now as opposed to later. Doing both teams, i think is wayyyy out of order, and i think its unfair to all parties involved not to try and work it out.
It's sometimes hard to give advice not knowing the full situation (this is regarding leaving the first gym, I think everyone is in consensus that doing BOTH is not even an option really). So not knowing why you and/or your daughter aren't happy, it seems to me that things can't be all that bad if you are considering staying? I realize you have an investment, and you want to get something for your money, but most people in a bad situation just want to get out. They wouldn't want to keep their child there for the sole purpose of getting your money's worth. So consider that if things aren't to the point where you HAVE to leave, then why not stick it out? As another post said, it teaches your child to hang in there and not to quit when things don't go their way. We left a gym once a while back (before competitions started), but it was to the point where going back or hanging in there was not an option, not even to get our money's worth. It seems it is NOT at that point for you, so I hope you stay and try to make it work. Good luck!
I agree with also. We were in that kind of situation a few years back. We left after the 1st competiton. There were alot of factors. It was the right choice for my kid. It was not done hastily. Doing 2 teams is not good and I don't think would be aloud by any gym. Yes you also have to realize people will call you gym jumper etc. They don't know the facts and will gossip. It's very hurtful. people can be very judgmental. My advice is do what is good for your daughter.and what you can live with. I understand saying finish what you start etc.. This is not the same as staying in a job etc. I won't stay somewhere I wasn't happy. Then your kid is miserable and it can reflect and hurt the whole team. It's like throwing good money after bad. Remember cheer is a business. You are the consumer. Really think long and hard and exhaust all your avenues (ie talking to the coaches possibly the girls or gym owner , you daughter ) . Then do what is best for your daughter. If that is leaving then do it as soon as possible so the team she is currently on has time to replace her or redo what they need to. Again good luck
