Hatred from mothers to other cheerleaders.

Date: Fri Aug 22 11:55 AM, 2008

Hatred from mothers to other cheerleaders.

Date: Fri Aug 22 1:43 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

I've been dying to post this thing forever. Okay so can someone please explain to me why cheerleaders MOTHERS, Hate so much on other girls? Is it because they find the daughter a triple-threat or something? Or is it because they just honestly don't like them? I've noticed a lot of that going on lately, and I wanted to know if this happens to other teams too? What can we do to stop it because I know of a girl who most of the parents dislike, and talk about her when we are right there, and I wanna know what to do, since they won't come to her about it?

Some parents see other girls as a threat to their child. But, sometimes there is a girl in the gym that, maybe has a mouth and uses it to destroy other athletes. It's sad. We just tell our parents to tell the coaches and they will talk to the child. Most of the time, the coach is seeing both sides to all the problems and can make some changes happen with the child. It's women and cheer, fun!

Date: Fri Aug 22 3:29 PM, 2008

I feel a lot of times these mothers are "reliving thier childhood" through thier kids and "YOUR" kid may remind them of someone they disliked when they were younger. I have two kids in this cheer game and this is the only rational I have been able to come up with. I know it sounds crazy but it is sick to hate a child and some women are just "SICK" I have even heard a parent say "oh so and so's kid is just a "*itch" and the kids like seven. Crazy right?

Date: Fri Aug 22 4:21 PM, 2008

For some reason, a little clique of moms don't like my daughter. She I would say maybe she is doing something to their kids, but their kids text mine and want to hang out at the gym and comps, so I don't know. I have thought about it a lot. Wondered if it was me, so I try to stay away from them other than waves of hello and goodbye in case I am the one having the effect. They are very cliquey. I know that at one time I wanted to be a part of that group just because they were the first ones I was introduced to when new at the gym, but I have since moved on and made friends with some really friendly people. I feel bad for my daughter, but I guess it is a life lesson...not everyone is going to like you. hmm

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Anonymous wrote:

I've been dying to post this thing forever. Okay so can someone please explain to me why cheerleaders MOTHERS, Hate so much on other girls? Is it because they find the daughter a triple-threat or something? Or is it because they just honestly don't like them? I've noticed a lot of that going on lately, and I wanted to know if this happens to other teams too? What can we do to stop it because I know of a girl who most of the parents dislike, and talk about her when we are right there, and I wanna know what to do, since they won't come to her about it?

It ain't just cheer moms...it's also little league moms & dads (in all sports).

Frankly, there are just ignorant and bad people in every walk of life.

Thankfully, they are a tiny minority of the simply wonderful people.

Associate with the good ones and shun the bad ones to the best of your ability.

Date: Fri Aug 22 10:29 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

For some reason, a little clique of moms don't like my daughter. She I would say maybe she is doing something to their kids, but their kids text mine and want to hang out at the gym and comps, so I don't know. I have thought about it a lot. Wondered if it was me, so I try to stay away from them other than waves of hello and goodbye in case I am the one having the effect. They are very cliquey. I know that at one time I wanted to be a part of that group just because they were the first ones I was introduced to when new at the gym, but I have since moved on and made friends with some really friendly people. I feel bad for my daughter, but I guess it is a life lesson...not everyone is going to like you.

How do you know the moms don't like your daughter. Did you ask them? Sometimes our kids tend to pick up on things from their parents, and if your having issues with the moms, maybe she throws attiude towards the moms, causing the moms not to deal with her. Sometimes as parents we need to stop assuming the worst of people and check our actions as well. I seriously doubt the moms hate your kid.

Date: Sat Aug 23 7:46 AM, 2008

not in all cases is it the kids fault. like in mine, a girl that was on my team last year & now this year, her mom defiantly hates me. its sad cause i know i didnt do ANYTHING. from what i was told was this. we post tryouts placements on our website by intinals, she assumed that i had made a level higher then i actually did. at practice one day she was going off to all the parnents that it was ridiclous how i made that team & not her daughter. that her daughter was way better than me & half that team, she was cussing & saying all this mean stuff about me and even made a threat to "talk" to my mom about it, with no intentions of actually talking but accusing. mind my mom is not a parent that hangs around these people & had no idea what was going on & neither did i.
so who was wrong?

Date: Sat Aug 23 1:26 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

not in all cases is it the kids fault. like in mine, a girl that was on my team last year & now this year, her mom defiantly hates me. its sad cause i know i didnt do ANYTHING. from what i was told was this. we post tryouts placements on our website by intinals, she assumed that i had made a level higher then i actually did. at practice one day she was going off to all the parnents that it was ridiclous how i made that team & not her daughter. that her daughter was way better than me & half that team, she was cussing & saying all this mean stuff about me and even made a threat to "talk" to my mom about it, with no intentions of actually talking but accusing. mind my mom is not a parent that hangs around these people & had no idea what was going on & neither did i.
so who was wrong?

Her! Not you. I call them stage moms, and they are very annoying. Those moms need to stop.

Date: Sat Aug 23 4:59 PM, 2008

Consider this perspective, some girls have been allowed by their parents to behave disrespectfully to other parents and cheerleaders. It is not always a jealousy issue as you described. It is really hard to like the kid that is obnoxious right in front of their own parent who is oblivious.

Date: Tue Aug 26 2:29 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Consider this perspective, some girls have been allowed by their parents to behave disrespectfully to other parents and cheerleaders. It is not always a jealousy issue as you described. It is really hard to like the kid that is obnoxious right in front of their own parent who is oblivious.

im sorry, but are you saying im obnoxious. if so, that is quite rude. because you dont know me or what had happened. i had NO IDEA that this was going on until after it happened, & her daughter and one of the coaches told me. im sorry if you misunderstood, or if i have. but i really didn't do anything to this mom, it was all because she ASSUMED i was on another team.

Date: Tue Aug 26 2:34 PM, 2008

I don't think they were talking about you, personally. They were just saying there may be another perspective to look at.

And my answer to your post, you didn't do anything. That mom just had a bee up her butt. It really sucks when people act like that, but I would just brush it off and keep being fabulous!

Date: Wed Aug 27 12:19 AM, 2008

I think it is a sad affair for adults to be mean and rude to kids!!! Even if the child is disrespectful, that is her training and the blame is on the parents that allow or re-enforce the behavior. I have found that many kids do not know the boundaries between child and adult and are disrepectful to their parents so you know they would have no repect for other adults.

There are also lots of parents that really live via their kids and it is really scary to see.

Kids, enjoy all stages in your life so when you do grow up you won't have to live via your kids but encourage and support your child in their grow to adulthood.