obsessed parents

Date: Fri Aug 1 9:41 AM, 2008

RE: obsessed parents

Amac · Veteran Member

Anonymous wrote:

when is it "OK" to start your kid in private lessons without looking like a pushy mom? They will need it eventually- will the coach recommend it or is there a level that they will get to that it's pretty much a requirement? Do you talk to the coach or the owner if you feel your child isn't getting placed correctly? These are things that maybe someone should answer for some parents that obviously don't know they are going overboard.

when is it ok to start privates? i don't think there's a right answer to that. and its never a REQUIREMENT to do privates. honestly, my answer would be when the KID wants to, if s/he ever does. being a pushy mom means pushing your kid to do things that YOU want them to do, not things they want to do for themselves. you explain to your child that made a year long comitment to their team, and that they need to stick to that, but anything passed that, you're being a pushy mom. i think parents should encourage their children to speak to their coaches/owners THEMSELVES about how to get whatever spot on whatever team it is they want to be on, and what it would take to reach that goal. one of the many valuable lessons in sports is how to take what you want, and make it a reality on your own.

when speaking to a coach/owner about placements, the best question is to ask why. not in an attacking matter, but more of a "sally has expressed to me that one of her goals is to be on team A. what skills is she lacking or needing improvement on to be placed on that team?" that way its opened ended, you're not attacking anyone or expressing your child is way to good to be where she's at, and you're leaving room for the coach to answer. there's always a reason for everything, and if the owner/coach is smart, they will have the GYM's best interest in mind. the bottom line, if you don't trust the desicions being made, you're probably not at the right gym.

Date: Fri Aug 1 5:54 PM, 2008

When do the coaches feel it is necessary to step in and say something, or is it just something that the other parents should bring it up to this so call "obsessed parent"? In my gym we are actually losing teammates because the parents don't want to be at practice with this other parent anymore because she causes so much drama. smile

Date: Fri Aug 1 7:35 PM, 2008

KICK THEM OUT OF THE PROGRAM, THAT IS WHAT WE DO. SAD FOR THE KIDS, BUT WHO CAN HANDLE THAT!

Date: Fri Aug 1 8:37 PM, 2008

Can we legally do that?

Date: Fri Aug 1 8:50 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

this should be in thursday gripes.

YES, IT SHOULD AND I HAVE A MAJOR GRIPE. DOES ANYONE CARE? NOONE FROM MY GYM GOES ON THIS SITE. AND I NEED TO VENT! AND IT IS PROBABLY GARAGE YOU ALL HAVE NEVER HEARD.

Date: Fri Aug 1 8:52 PM, 2008

I MEAN GARBAGE! I AM FEELING A LITTLE STRESSED ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION.

Date: Fri Aug 1 8:53 PM, 2008

wink

Date: Fri Aug 1 8:55 PM, 2008

THESE CRAZY PEOPLE ARE TALKING LAWSUITS AND EVERYTHING ELSE AND FOR WHAT? CHEERLEADING! AGAINST OUR PARENT CLUB FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. THEY NEED TO GET A LIFE! OK I VENTED!

Date: Sat Aug 2 5:02 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

THESE CRAZY PEOPLE ARE TALKING LAWSUITS AND EVERYTHING ELSE AND FOR WHAT? CHEERLEADING! AGAINST OUR PARENT CLUB FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. THEY NEED TO GET A LIFE! OK I VENTED!

I'm sorry, I thought this was a place to talk about anything and everything, not just what YOU think is important. Some gyms do have this situation going on and it does interfere with what we think our kids deserve. We just want to know how to handle it correctly. So since you are anonymous almighty- how would you handle it?

Date: Sat Aug 2 5:05 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

THESE CRAZY PEOPLE ARE TALKING LAWSUITS AND EVERYTHING ELSE AND FOR WHAT? CHEERLEADING! AGAINST OUR PARENT CLUB FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. THEY NEED TO GET A LIFE! OK I VENTED!

Hmmm... seems it struck a nerve. Are YOU the crazy parent we are all talking about?

Date: Sat Aug 2 5:08 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

this should be in thursday gripes.

YES, IT SHOULD AND I HAVE A MAJOR GRIPE. DOES ANYONE CARE? NOONE FROM MY GYM GOES ON THIS SITE. AND I NEED TO VENT! AND IT IS PROBABLY GARAGE YOU ALL HAVE NEVER HEARD.

I don't understand this message.You are supposed to be able to vent, but nobody else. Wow. Can anyone spell hypocrite.

Date: Sat Aug 2 5:24 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

THESE CRAZY PEOPLE ARE TALKING LAWSUITS AND EVERYTHING ELSE AND FOR WHAT? CHEERLEADING! AGAINST OUR PARENT CLUB FOR CRYING OUT LOUD. THEY NEED TO GET A LIFE! OK I VENTED!

I think what we are all trying to figure out is how to stop the one parent that is in every gym that goes overboard and takes the fun out of it for everyone without having to get nasty right?

Date: Sat Aug 2 7:28 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

this should be in thursday gripes.

YES, IT SHOULD AND I HAVE A MAJOR GRIPE. DOES ANYONE CARE? NOONE FROM MY GYM GOES ON THIS SITE. AND I NEED TO VENT! AND IT IS PROBABLY GARAGE YOU ALL HAVE NEVER HEARD.

there's no cheer in thursday gripes-read before you type, that's already been stated.

Date: Sat Aug 2 8:07 PM, 2008

i hate obsessed parents, there was this one at my old gym and she pushed her 8 year old daughter so hard. That little girl would take a tumbling class, a private, then her team cheer practice, then another private everyday. It was bad enough that they drove 2 hours each way but then to have a 8 year in the gym practicing for 5 hours stright. She wanted her doughter to be level 5 so bad. Her daughter would just cry and cry, i felt so bad for that little girl.

Date: Sat Aug 2 10:45 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

When do the coaches feel it is necessary to step in and say something, or is it just something that the other parents should bring it up to this so call "obsessed parent"? In my gym we are actually losing teammates because the parents don't want to be at practice with this other parent anymore because she causes so much drama.

Trolls DO that, dontcha know?They contaminate the air everyone else has to breathe and are then SHOCKED the day NO ONE wants to cross their bridge anymore!

Date: Sat Aug 2 11:03 PM, 2008

wow!

Date: Sat Aug 2 11:06 PM, 2008

its funny that no one saves her a seat anymore!

Date: Sun Aug 3 9:39 AM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

i hate obsessed parents, there was this one at my old gym and she pushed her 8 year old daughter so hard. That little girl would take a tumbling class, a private, then her team cheer practice, then another private everyday. It was bad enough that they drove 2 hours each way but then to have a 8 year in the gym practicing for 5 hours stright. She wanted her doughter to be level 5 so bad. Her daughter would just cry and cry, i felt so bad for that little girl.

I would think at that point the coach would have stepped in to say something.

Date: Sun Aug 3 9:40 AM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

When do the coaches feel it is necessary to step in and say something, or is it just something that the other parents should bring it up to this so call "obsessed parent"? In my gym we are actually losing teammates because the parents don't want to be at practice with this other parent anymore because she causes so much drama.

Trolls DO that, dontcha know?They contaminate the air everyone else has to breathe and are then SHOCKED the day NO ONE wants to cross their bridge anymore!

omg I totally gonna use that saying!