I make it a rule both inside of cheer and school to stay out of my daughters little fights with her friends.  They ussually make up after awhile and then the parents are stuck in the middle of things.  Now if this mom tends to get over involved and it is hurting my child personally, then that is when i step in and handle it at my family's level.  Instaed of confronting the mom who is probably just too immature to stay out of it, i put my foot down and tell my daughet to saty away from them and cut off that relationship period.  The only time I would even waste my time or energy on a person like that, is if it was seriously causing my kid strife.  then the mama bear will come out and its past the point of confronting her. let her know and the gym owner know you will press charges for harrassment if one more word is uttered to your child. 

Honestly some people never grow up and its not worth your energy or braeth to even bother saying anything except "my child is a minor and if you do not leave her alone period i will press charges against you" Say it mean it and do it the very next time she harasses your kid.   That is the only way people like that learn to to leave children alone!

When my child is acting up and being disrespectful to her friends, I call her on it.  When another parent comes to me and let me know that my child has done something to upset her child, then I am going to talk to my kid  and have her appologize..But we have a parent at our gym, whose child is always being mean to others and saying mean offensive things to her fellow team mates, when you tell the mom aboout it..She just looks at you crazy and says you know my child is crazy, but does nothing about her kid's behavior..Then goes around calling people at other gyms, saying she cussed me out knowing she did no such thing.  She should just sit at practice and really observe whats going on.  She will learn fast that noone wants anything to do with her daughter.

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When my child is acting up and being disrespectful to her friends, I call her on it.  When another parent comes to me and let me know that my child has done something to upset her child, then I am going to talk to my kid  and have her appologize..But we have a parent at our gym, whose child is always being mean to others and saying mean offensive things to her fellow team mates, when you tell the mom aboout it..She just looks at you crazy and says you know my child is crazy, but does nothing about her kid's behavior..Then goes around calling people at other gyms, saying she cussed me out knowing she did no such thing.  She should just sit at practice and really observe whats going on.  She will learn fast that noone wants anything to do with her daughter.

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I love that, this mom sounds smart, leaving a kids mean and offensive things with kids to sort of smart. Why you ask, because kids always say mean things to each other and then play two seconds later. I have a child just like this and we have had several problems, but with the same parent and same kid, so I hold no weight to that parents complaint because my kid can have friends at school, cheer, play dates, gets invited to parties etc, and has very few problems. I have concluded that this parent is very jealous of my child, (talent, looks etc), therefore I give none of her complaints any merit. Maybe there is a reason this parent does not get involved, whatever the reason I as a parent know you can not control other people or their kids, you can only control yours, so teaching your kids coping methods are better than trying to control every kid and parent in the world.

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These message boards crack me up All the parents do is start more drama, I could not even count on both hands how many times my mom & dad came home from work and talked about whos late to work or who went to lunch togather and came back late Get a life PARENTS

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or how could they be passed up for that promotion or why no raise or bonus this year

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These message boards crack me up All the parents do is start more drama, I could not even count on both hands how many times my mom & dad came home from work and talked about whos late to work or who went to lunch togather and came back late Get a life PARENTS

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it's funny u say that cuz the parent writing this, is the same person starting drama everywhere she goes.  now she's looking stupid and wondering why no one wants anything to do with her and the kids. 

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These message boards crack me up All the parents do is start more drama, I could not even count on both hands how many times my mom & dad came home from work and talked about whos late to work or who went to lunch togather and came back late Get a life PARENTS

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it's funny u say that cuz the parent writing this, is the same person starting drama everywhere she goes.  now she's looking stupid and wondering why no one wants anything to do with her and the kids. 

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better still do a head count of all the parents and coaches who would back up the facts.  she's crazy!!!

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I don't get this , what head count? That sounds silly. Also the same parents who think they have the whole gym on their side and everyone hates this one mother and her kids is the same problem starting parents I am talking about. Sounds like if you or your kids don't talk to them your doing them a favor!

When you think that you effect someone's life because you don't talk to them, your a little delusional, if your not family why would they care? Do you wake them up in the morning ? Uh no because your not GOD. Do you pay their mortgage, food, gas, or utilities, doesn't sound like it, so the ability for you to effect their life by not talking to them really sounds........ how do I say this ....... dumb.

Even funnier you read and responded to my dumb issue, the pot calling the kettle black.

As a parent I think that would be a great idea, I love that my kid goes to school and all the "he hit me, she looked at me wrong" crap is handled by the school then when my kid tells me the story if I have a problem there is an unbiased third party for me to deal with, the school not the other parent.

I wish gyms handled these issues the same way, parents are not allowed to go to school with their kids, why should they be at the gym. Not to mention the fact that when issues arise at the gym, (ie, your kids always in the front, my kid should fly(yada yada) instead of the gym being the one parents take things out on a lot of times it's the other parents and the kid that is in the front, flying etc. So instead they fight with and knit pick that kids to death, making like its an issue with the person's child because something has to be wrong with the kid if they fly and get to be in the front of the routine, it cant just be talent, not to mention the other parents have to sit in the parent area and listen to them complain about "who does what and how their kid used to (yada yada),

So honestly you hit the nail on the head it the parents are not there, the gym( like the school) would handle these issues between the kids and the parents would not have to be involved.

Thank you great suggestion

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As a parent I think that would be a great idea, I love that my kid goes to school and all the "he hit me, she looked at me wrong" crap is handled by the school then when my kid tells me the story if I have a problem there is an unbiased third party for me to deal with, the school not the other parent.

I wish gyms handled these issues the same way, parents are not allowed to go to school with their kids, why should they be at the gym. Not to mention the fact that when issues arise at the gym, (ie, your kids always in the front, my kid should fly(yada yada) instead of the gym being the one parents take things out on a lot of times it's the other parents and the kid that is in the front, flying etc. So instead they fight with and knit pick that kids to death, making like its an issue with the person's child because something has to be wrong with the kid if they fly and get to be in the front of the routine, it cant just be talent, not to mention the other parents have to sit in the parent area and listen to them complain about "who does what and how their kid used to (yada yada),

So honestly you hit the nail on the head it the parents are not there, the gym( like the school) would handle these issues between the kids and the parents would not have to be involved.

Thank you great suggestion

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Actually, as a parent, you are allowed to go to school with your child.  However, I'm sure that if the parent caused a distraction during the school day, then they would have a talk with the parent.

I've never wondered why some gyms close their practices to parents, but I sure do appreciate the ones that don't.  Not all parents are out of control, so why shouldn't those parents be allowed to watch?