Do you think it's ok...

Date: Thu Apr 17 11:21 AM, 2008

Do you think it's ok...

love4cheer · Newbie

Seriously, who really cares who dates who...as long as when they are at the gym they keep it professional. Period.

Pixie · Senior Member

love4cheer wrote:

Seriously, who really cares who dates who...as long as when they are at the gym they keep it professional. Period.

I agree

Date: Thu Apr 17 12:37 PM, 2008

as long as you get the job done.

Tamara · cheergyms.com Master Poster

Anonymous wrote:
Do you think it is ok...

1) For a coach of a gym to date a coach/owner of another gym? Do you think it is a conflict of interest?

2) For a coach/gym owner to date a parent of an athlete enrolled in their program?

3) For coaches from the same program to date eachother...do you think it conflicts with their work, especially in an enviornment where children present?

Many business dont allo their employees to date or "Fraternize" with eachother or the custormers (parents). What are your opinions and/or experiences on these 3 things?

1) Maybe inter-gym dating will help the gyms come together. Although inter-gym break-ups may cause this to come crashing to the floor. I really don't see a problem with it.

2) While I think this one is a little bit more sketchy, I still don't have a problem with it, as long as it's handled well. Ya know keep it business in the gym.

3) As long as they keep it professional, makes no difference to me.

I don't agree with "zero tolerance" broad rules. Different circumstances require different actions. If two coaches are conducting themselves professionally, there's no reason for anyone to get in the middle. However, if there are two other coaches who can't seem to keep their hands off of one another then someone may have reason to inform them they need to chill.

Two of the coaches at one of the gyms my daughter cheered at were dating, but I didn't know about it for a LOOOOOOng time after it started. They were completely professional and stuck to the business of coaching while at the gym. When I found out I was impressed with the way they handled themselves.

Date: Thu Apr 17 1:55 PM, 2008

Anyone ever heard of don't mix pleasure with business?

Date: Thu Apr 17 2:13 PM, 2008

As long and they are consenting adults who cares remember there is life outside of cheer.

Date: Thu Apr 17 2:35 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

As long and they are consenting adults who cares remember there is life outside of cheer.

Amen!

Date: Thu Apr 17 2:48 PM, 2008

If I do not mix my co-workers and friends, I will be a sad girl. My best friends I see evryday when I am in the gym!

Date: Thu Apr 17 3:44 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

If I do not mix my co-workers and friends, I will be a sad girl. My best friends I see evryday when I am in the gym!

I agree my co-workers are my friends. I see them everyday.

pkb · Veteran Member

I met my husband at work and we are still happily married after 18 years!

DivaPrincessTwinkleStar · Senior Member

my former boss said that we arent aloud to date fellow employees or athletes.. which was fine with me... cause all the guy coaches were like 50 or young and married.. lol

Date: Sun Apr 20 5:14 PM, 2008

1) No, not okay. Especially if they are from gyms competing against eachother. Gossip will ensue between parents, cheerleaders, coaches, which is never good. Keep your personal lives SEPERATE from your work life people!

2) NO NO NO! Favoritism, jealousy, gossip: all things that are just waiting to happen..what about when they break up? If I were a gym owner or a parent at a gym where this was allowed I would be very upset!

3) Its one thing for coaches to be friends but when you throw in a romantic (likely intimate) relationship in the mix it is just asking for trouble. Im sure that just like offices romances there are plenty of instances where the relationships have been completely appropriate at work and may have worked out and have gone on to marry and start families. But more often than not, this is not the case. Most relationships end in break ups and often can be very ugly. oh ya, and what about the appropriatness of this type of relationship around kids. I think this is a very very very BAD IDEA!

Date: Mon Apr 21 3:37 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

1) No, not okay. Especially if they are from gyms competing against eachother. Gossip will ensue between parents, cheerleaders, coaches, which is never good. Keep your personal lives SEPERATE from your work life people!

2) NO NO NO! Favoritism, jealousy, gossip: all things that are just waiting to happen..what about when they break up? If I were a gym owner or a parent at a gym where this was allowed I would be very upset!

3) Its one thing for coaches to be friends but when you throw in a romantic (likely intimate) relationship in the mix it is just asking for trouble. Im sure that just like offices romances there are plenty of instances where the relationships have been completely appropriate at work and may have worked out and have gone on to marry and start families. But more often than not, this is not the case. Most relationships end in break ups and often can be very ugly. oh ya, and what about the appropriatness of this type of relationship around kids. I think this is a very very very BAD IDEA!

If they are truly adults that act and carry themselves as adults it will be no problems in the end. Remember there are some that can do both and do it well.

Date: Mon Apr 21 4:02 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Do you think it is ok...

1) For a coach of a gym to date a coach/owner of another gym? Do you think it is a conflict of interest?

2) For a coach/gym owner to date a parent of an athlete enrolled in their program?

3) For coaches from the same program to date eachother...do you think it conflicts with their work, especially in an enviornment where children present?

Many business dont allo their employees to date or "Fraternize" with eachother or the custormers (parents). What are your opinions and/or experiences on these 3 things?

No, it's not ok. And Owners beware, it's a lawsuit waiting to happen.

Date: Mon Apr 21 4:41 PM, 2008

THIS IS NOT OKAY! Have a dating relationship with someone OUTSIDE of your work envirnment! This is just a breeding ground for trouble. Don't date other coaches. The kids don't need to be around that nor should they be forced to! I'd be interested to hear any good stories that comes out of allowing your self or your coaching staff to date eachother, parents, or coaches from other gyms. I doubt there are very many.

Date: Mon Apr 21 5:09 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

THIS IS NOT OKAY! Have a dating relationship with someone OUTSIDE of your work envirnment! This is just a breeding ground for trouble. Don't date other coaches. The kids don't need to be around that nor should they be forced to! I'd be interested to hear any good stories that comes out of allowing your self or your coaching staff to date eachother, parents, or coaches from other gyms. I doubt there are very many.

Ok, that was just so random!

Date: Mon Apr 21 5:53 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

THIS IS NOT OKAY! Have a dating relationship with someone OUTSIDE of your work envirnment! This is just a breeding ground for trouble. Don't date other coaches. The kids don't need to be around that nor should they be forced to! I'd be interested to hear any good stories that comes out of allowing your self or your coaching staff to date eachother, parents, or coaches from other gyms. I doubt there are very many.

Ok, that was just so random!

WOW! Relax...it is possible for people to date and it not be a "breeding ground for trouble"....and i speak form personal experience :)

Date: Mon Apr 21 9:07 PM, 2008

Where do I begin? This is what I have seen. Coach dates underage high schooler and gets her pg. Her parents could have had this coach put in jail.
And it certainly reflects on the gym.
Different gym -
One owner dates one of the 18 yr old athletes, while her spouse dates one of the moms. They are now divorced, and now there are two gyms. hmm

Sick! You really think this is not harmful? I have seen sexual harrassment cases in the work place and the whole nine yards. Seriously, it is not healthy for anyone!
Especially the athletes that are watching a lot of this stuff unfold.

Date: Tue Apr 22 5:56 AM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:
Where do I begin? This is what I have seen. Coach dates underage high schooler and gets her pg. Her parents could have had this coach put in jail.
And it certainly reflects on the gym.
Different gym -
One owner dates one of the 18 yr old athletes, while her spouse dates one of the moms. They are now divorced, and now there are two gyms. Sick! You really think this is not harmful? I have seen sexual harrassment cases in the work place and the whole nine yards. Seriously, it is not healthy for anyone!
Especially the athletes that are watching a lot of this stuff unfold.

Please, none of these examples were even part of the original question. No one has said that a coach dating an athlete, much less an underaged athlete, was okay, no one was even questioning this. Also the question wasn't do you think it's alright for a married owner/coach to date a parent.