favoritism

Date: Wed Apr 16 10:25 AM, 2008

favoritism

flipkidjudge · Senior Member

When it moves beyond professional to personal.
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Date: Wed Apr 16 11:29 AM, 2008

flipkidjudge wrote:

When it moves beyond professional to personal.
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What is considered "personal"? I am friends with most of my daughters coaches, but I KNOW they do not show favoritism towards my kids...

Date: Wed Apr 16 12:44 PM, 2008

ive seen coaches hang out with kids outside of cheer not being cheer related events.. mainly treating them as if it were her kid..
not fair to other girls

Date: Wed Apr 16 1:06 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

ive seen coaches hang out with kids outside of cheer not being cheer related events.. mainly treating them as if it were her kid..
not fair to other girls

I dont see anything wrong with this as long as everyone is treated equally in the gym.

Date: Wed Apr 16 1:15 PM, 2008

i think it is fair for me to say that their will always be a few favorites at a gym every year. I guess i am biased because i am a favorite. My coaches treat everyone at practice equally and fair and if they didnt i would feel akward. I text and call my coaches all the time and they call me as well. I dont see anything wrong with it and neither do my parents. I am also one of the most responsible on the team so if they need help they know they can always call me. I am not one of the kids favored because of my skill level but rather my personality. I am not the best on my team but i have a very humorous sense of humor.

Date: Wed Apr 16 1:17 PM, 2008

I don't see a problem with this either. Our owners and coaches have developed close relationships with many of our cheerleaders and their families, and frequently do things outside of cheer. Our owners and coaches are excellent role models for the kids, and have become mentors to them in so many ways - not just cheer. Yet, everyone is treated the same in the gym, regardless of relationships that have been formed. I don't think doing things outside of the gym is a problem - favoritism in the program is, and that can happen whether there's a relationship outside of the gym or not.

Date: Wed Apr 16 1:20 PM, 2008

Favoritism goes on at every gym. Coaches are human just like the rest of us and they will always have thier favorites. The difference is some coaches know how to not show favoritism when it comes to the team as a whole, while others are not good at hiding it. It's very frustratiing when it is really obvious to everyone even the kids. I just don't think they see it.

Date: Wed Apr 16 1:21 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

I don't see a problem with this either. Our owners and coaches have developed close relationships with many of our cheerleaders and their families, and frequently do things outside of cheer. Our owners and coaches are excellent role models for the kids, and have become mentors to them in so many ways - not just cheer. Yet, everyone is treated the same in the gym, regardless of relationships that have been formed. I don't think doing things outside of the gym is a problem - favoritism in the program is, and that can happen whether there's a relationship outside of the gym or not.

Oops - correction. I should have said "favoritism in a program" - I didn't mean to imply there was favoritism in our gym because I don't believe there is.

Date: Wed Apr 16 1:48 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don't see a problem with this either. Our owners and coaches have developed close relationships with many of our cheerleaders and their families, and frequently do things outside of cheer. Our owners and coaches are excellent role models for the kids, and have become mentors to them in so many ways - not just cheer. Yet, everyone is treated the same in the gym, regardless of relationships that have been formed. I don't think doing things outside of the gym is a problem - favoritism in the program is, and that can happen whether there's a relationship outside of the gym or not.

Oops - correction. I should have said "favoritism in a program" - I didn't mean to imply there was favoritism in our gym because I don't believe there is.

In are gym I would say they coaches have a different conection to each one of the members on a team, not because of there skills, but because everyone has a different personality. There is no favoritism that I have seen on any of my girls teams. The coaches joke and laugh and give the girls a hard time all along bonding with each of the girls.

Date: Wed Apr 16 4:50 PM, 2008

How about when a gym owner secretly emails and texts her and then takes her to dinner when he's supposed to be at ameeting.

Date: Wed Apr 16 5:11 PM, 2008

My coaches text me all the time I love my coaches and I don't think they show favortism we're just all a big happy family that wants to see what were doing and stuff we hang out after practices go to lunch or dinner ... I don't think there's nothing wrong with that !!!

Date: Wed Apr 16 5:21 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

How about when a gym owner secretly emails and texts her and then takes her to dinner when he's supposed to be at ameeting.

eeeeeeee how old is she and how old is he?

Date: Wed Apr 16 5:48 PM, 2008

i think theres some favoritism everywhere, whether its seen or not. i know at my gym, my guy coach calls and texts alot of girls and vice versa. i think its pretty obvious who his favorites are and he treats them alot better than everyone else. alot of coaches also have myspaces and stuff so it gets kinda personal

Date: Wed Apr 16 6:34 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How about when a gym owner secretly emails and texts her and then takes her to dinner when he's supposed to be at ameeting.

eeeeeeee how old is she and how old is he?

I don't think you can call this a meeting and if this is a person under the age of 18 and this is her friend placing this on the board, because you know for a fact this is happening then be a real friend and tell her parents if you don't feel you can tell them then tell a trusted adult. It may be hard and she may be angry with you in the begining but she will eventually get over it.. Do the right you came on her and posted this so it sounds to me like you are trying to help her.

Date: Wed Apr 16 6:42 PM, 2008

OKAY PEOPLE!!!!!!WTF!!!!!! RED FLAG THE ONLY TIME ANYONE CARES IS WHEN ITS GYM BASHING THIS IS WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS IF THIS IS TRUE BE A FRIEND!!!!!TELL SOMEONE .

Date: Wed Apr 16 7:00 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

OKAY PEOPLE!!!!!!WTF!!!!!! RED FLAG THE ONLY TIME ANYONE CARES IS WHEN ITS GYM BASHING THIS IS WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS IF THIS IS TRUE BE A FRIEND!!!!!TELL SOMEONE .

No this is serious. We cheer in Oregon and somthing like this happend, but it was worse. Somthing happened when we came back from Worlds last year. Lets just say the male coach was arrested on the plane. He also was a coach for a high school in town. It was really bad. Tell someone!!!

Date: Wed Apr 16 8:40 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OKAY PEOPLE!!!!!!WTF!!!!!! RED FLAG THE ONLY TIME ANYONE CARES IS WHEN ITS GYM BASHING THIS IS WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS IF THIS IS TRUE BE A FRIEND!!!!!TELL SOMEONE .

No this is serious. We cheer in Oregon and somthing like this happend, but it was worse. Somthing happened when we came back from Worlds last year. Lets just say the male coach was arrested on the plane. He also was a coach for a high school in town. It was really bad. Tell someone!!!

Most definitely. IF you know something like this to be fact, you need to let someone know!

Date: Wed Apr 16 8:44 PM, 2008

If you have concerns please tell an adult, any adult. If they dont do something about it, tell someone else.

Date: Thu Apr 17 2:05 PM, 2008

I'm a coach. I used to go to the movies with kids from my gyms. I don't find any of them sexually attractive they are little kids. I have stopped this however since more and more coaches seem to be taking advantage of these little kids. I find it safer to be safe then sorry. Say you hang out with girl A and girl B gets jelous and starts a rumor saying you and girl A did this at the movies. Now it is word against word and the likely-hood of you winning is slim. Since you were at the movies with girl A even though nothing happened no one can say nothing didn't happen. It was fun hanging out when it was possible, but I think coaches should hang out with their students at Cheer Events only. If you really want to hang out with your students just make it cheer event by making an announcement saying CHEER MOVIE NIGHT or CHEER DINNER and invite everyone. That way no one is showed favortism and everyone is happy.