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I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell her how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.



Just remember parents.....YOUR KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF YOU whether you like it, control it or not.....Poster you are a grown up and I would assume that you would know how to handle something like this QUIETLY (meaning not asking for advice on a cheer message board!) with the parents or the mom u say you know...and let her handle it in which ever way she chooses.


poster there is n9othing wrong with seeking advice on the message boards. You did not indicate anything to anyone who ther child or family is. you have handled it with dignity and respect. it is a hard call when you or your child is close to someone to decide what to do. and asking others for advice gives you other perspectives. their are a lot of kids who readthese boards and you may have just helped some ofthem realize the danger or the concern and they went home and took pictures off. their are tons of parents on the boards and maybe you just helped them realize that they need to check on their kids. you did nothing wrong by asking on a cheer message board. you kept it general and your concern is valid. now all you have to do is decide if it is your place to speak to the parents and how. you can look at some of the reactions on here and it will probably help you in your decision on how to handle it.
thanl you for respecting the family and more importantly the child.
good luck with everything



The reason for my post was to put it out there that it will be very hard now for this mom to go to the other mom and say "hey your daughter has some not so nice pics on her myspace" because EVERYONE is going to know who that family is and that is not respectful in my opinion. Cheer parents talk, gossip whatever you want to call it.  I'm sure this mom who posted knew what to do in this case............I think maybe there's more to it...just my thought

She could have posted a global bulletin saying hey parents have you checked your kids myspace lately???  Or Please parents check your kids myspace for inappropriate posting, pics etc something like that...  It would have made parents aware without pointing fingers....

i dont get what you are saying at all!!!! this person just asked advice and there is no way anyone will know who this family is unless it is posted on here or the parent themselves say something.  This could be about any family anywhere. she never even said it was a cheerleader. she never said what gym or even what part of the united states this family is in.

i think you are reading way too much into the question. there is absoultely no way that anyone will know who it is.weirdface





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Never say never........hmmmmm.....ok isn't this a cheer message board? weirdface
I'd put money on it that it is a cheerleader ...anyway
OK so if....and I say IF....
Poster tells mom
Mom tells daughter
Daughter tells friends OMG! I can't believe so and so naming the poster told my mom about my myspace AND to top it off this "ADVICE" has been posted on the message board!
Friends tell EVERYONE.....Do u get that?

I wouldn't wish to be the poster now........

.....My point is why ask? GO to the source meaning the mom and discuss what she's disturbed about....it's between the poster and the mom/daughter and not everyone on this message board.  Then make a post with a global statement saying the things you dislike about myspace....it would bring the awareness to parents of the many myspace comments, pics that are not so nice.  I felt it should have been presented a different way that's all....anyway......just an opinion...everyone has one...



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I think what you are still not getting is that the 'poster' never said name , age, sex or location or if they even where a cheerleader.  You sound like a guilty kid that needs to get your myspace checked by your parent.  Parents and mentors are here to ensure that you are guided to make good choices.  Sorry if you feel threatened buy us adults caring about you and other kids.

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I think what you are still not getting is that the 'poster' never said name , age, sex or location or if they even where a cheerleader. You sound like a guilty kid that needs to get your myspace checked by your parent. Parents and mentors are here to ensure that you are guided to make good choices. Sorry if you feel threatened buy us adults caring about you and other kids.


I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

No kid here and I am an adult with a myspace...now who's assuming....It is an opinion... poster asked.. I wouldn't have handled it this way.........and poster did reference sex I'm sure if you re-read it you'll see it too...it's obvious wherever these folks are there's a group of somekind...just leads to drama....AND my suggestion of posting a global statement regarding Myspace was a way to avoid that.  I guess you didn't read that either....hmm I hope it works out for the better....

 



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I think what you are still not getting is that the 'poster' never said name , age, sex or location or if they even where a cheerleader. You sound like a guilty kid that needs to get your myspace checked by your parent. Parents and mentors are here to ensure that you are guided to make good choices. Sorry if you feel threatened buy us adults caring about you and other kids.


I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

No kid here and I am an adult with a myspace...now who's assuming....It is an opinion... poster asked.. I wouldn't have handled it this way.........and poster did reference sex I'm sure if you re-read it you'll see it too...it's obvious wherever these folks are there's a group of somekind...just leads to drama....AND my suggestion of posting a global statement regarding Myspace was a way to avoid that.  I guess you didn't read that either....hmm I hope it works out for the better....



ok you made your point and obviously you just dont get the fact that noone knows the family, "girl" or anything like that! your arguement is not vailid at all.



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I think what you are still not getting is that the 'poster' never said name , age, sex or location or if they even where a cheerleader. You sound like a guilty kid that needs to get your myspace checked by your parent. Parents and mentors are here to ensure that you are guided to make good choices. Sorry if you feel threatened buy us adults caring about you and other kids.


I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

No kid here and I am an adult with a myspace...now who's assuming....It is an opinion... poster asked.. I wouldn't have handled it this way.........and poster did reference sex I'm sure if you re-read it you'll see it too...it's obvious wherever these folks are there's a group of somekind...just leads to drama....AND my suggestion of posting a global statement regarding Myspace was a way to avoid that. I guess you didn't read that either....hmm I hope it works out for the better....



ok you made your point and obviously you just dont get the fact that noone knows the family, "girl" or anything like that! your arguement is not vailid at all.

 


It was never an argument..... I never said that anyone knew the family or the poster...it was an attempt to prevent that....SO once again because it's posted here and IF the poster does decide to tell mom..many people in their click or whatever group they might be involved with probably read this message board to and will know who this post is about...pretty embarrassing...I don't think that's what the poster intended....
AGAIN...poster asked for the advice this was never an arguement just an OPINION and SUGGESTION...hmm

 



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What is more embarassing, Parent and adults caring about the youth of our nation or suggestive pics on myspace, I think the latter.

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What is more embarassing, Parent and adults caring about the youth of our nation or suggestive pics on myspace, I think the latter.



Could be... it's the way you approach the situation........hey poster tell us how you resolved your concerns...luv to hear it....



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I actually spoke to the young lady on my own and expressed my concerns.  Funny thing is, she was embarassed when she spoke with me.  She could not believe that I saw some of the photos that she had posted.  She did not express to me that I needed to mind my own business as she appreciated that I did not go to her mother first.  She has since changed her pics and I hope that I opened her eyes to the fact that anyone can see what she is up to, unless she turns it private.  We shall see how it works out, now its up to her.



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As a coach I have a myspace I am friends with my kids but I really monitor my page to make sure it's appropriate. I am too appalled by some of the pictures and language I see on their pages and there have been times I felt like calling their parents. I just wanted to let parents know, half the time they post things and make comments and they have no idea what they are talking about. Also, I can think of at least 5 girls on my team alone who have a page and its kept a secret from mom & dad. Parents, if your athlete swears they don't have a page do you have any reason to go on myspace? Also it's east to make your page unsearchable. You have to know alot of personal information about me in order to even friend request me. They know way more about working their computers and the internet.
Im not saying this to be rude Im just saying we need to keep the lines of comunication open with our girls so they don't feel the need to hide their page and be aware they may have a page even if you think they dont.

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I actually spoke to the young lady on my own and expressed my concerns. Funny thing is, she was embarassed when she spoke with me. She could not believe that I saw some of the photos that she had posted. She did not express to me that I needed to mind my own business as she appreciated that I did not go to her mother first. She has since changed her pics and I hope that I opened her eyes to the fact that anyone can see what she is up to, unless she turns it private. We shall see how it works out, now its up to her.

 


 biggrin Good job poster........I'm glad she was the only one embarressed...great approach!...



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