Myspace

Date: Sun Feb 24 12:21 AM, 2008

Myspace

Date: Sun Feb 24 12:28 AM, 2008

i somewhat agree with you.
whats the link?

Date: Sun Feb 24 12:40 AM, 2008

I would prefer not to post her link for everyone to see her poor choices in photo selections. That would also imply where we are from and that is not ok. Any advice?

Date: Sun Feb 24 6:49 AM, 2008

If you have a concern about someone's myspace you need to talk to that person directly or the parent if the person is not 18 yet. Pick up the phone and talk. That's it. Otherwise, de-friend the person and carry on.

Date: Sun Feb 24 8:31 AM, 2008

Sadly so parents just don't have the time or know how to check their kids myspace. Why dont you help that parent? Without putting your opinion in on it and humiliating the parent and the child. Call the parent and ask them have they seen the stuff on my space, if your kids are friends you could make it seem like it was something you discovered there and show the parent in a round about way what is on their kids myspace. This will keep you in the clear and the parent will see you in a more protective light than a "I'm a better parent than you" light. Then once you know the parent has seen the myspace, if it does not change you can assume that the parent is okay with it and you should just stay out of it. As a parent I know this is hard to do and at the age these girls are some of their clothing, and choice of words are tough to take. Good Luck

Date: Sun Feb 24 12:57 PM, 2008

Let them be. You made bad choices when you were young and you need to let them do it. You are NOT there parent, worry about yourself and your own child. Myspace is Myspace, get over it. This post should be deleted because we all know Myspace has bad photos and inapporiate comments. we dont need to go on kids myspaces and feel a need to tell them, "stay young, be a lady/gentlemen". Come on people, wake up, times are changing but we were there at one point in time. we can't shelter kids but be aware and talk to our kids. Educate them!

Date: Sun Feb 24 6:15 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell her how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

Some parents are in denial about their children, in fact most are. Guess what? All kids need to be watched, but even if you say something to their parents they will just get annoyed with you, not their children.

Date: Sun Feb 24 7:01 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Let them be. You made bad choices when you were young and you need to let them do it. You are NOT there parent, worry about yourself and your own child. Myspace is Myspace, get over it. This post should be deleted because we all know Myspace has bad photos and inapporiate comments. we dont need to go on kids myspaces and feel a need to tell them, "stay young, be a lady/gentlemen". Come on people, wake up, times are changing but we were there at one point in time. we can't shelter kids but be aware and talk to our kids. Educate them!

Why do I get the feeling this is a kid and not an adult speaking.

Date: Sun Feb 24 8:54 PM, 2008

I allow my daughter to have a myspace, but I have her passwords. She knows I check it periodically.

Date: Sun Feb 24 9:58 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

I allow my daughter to have a myspace, but I have her passwords. She knows I check it periodically.

Alot of the kids I know have more than 1.

Date: Mon Feb 25 10:14 AM, 2008

That's why you check it from THEIR computer. You can check the history of the computer. There are many ways of finding out if they have more then one. Mine doesn't even have the time to keep up on one MySpace. How they have time to do two or more is beyond me.

I love MySpace. I'm on there all the time. My fellow police wive friends are on there as well and we talk all day about lots of stuff. And I also can keep track of my kids as well as their friends. Yea, the pictures are a bit off sometimes, but I usually just send them a little note saying, "hey, you might want to take that pic off. You might get in trouble for it." and they ALWAYS do. Most of the time they don't even think it's that bad but when a parent kind of nudges them, they listen. And this way, i can see what's going on. I read their comments to each other and know who is doing what for the most part. I just love it.

It's an easy way to get an idea of what they are doing. 99% of the time I don't say a word. But if I do, it's always to THEM and not in the comments so everyone else can read it. Be very careful to not embarass them. That's one great way to get yourself deleted from their MySpace.

You'd be surprised at how well they actually DO behave. Yea, they make mistakes and poor choices, but shoot.... I'm not throwing stone, that's for sure!!!!!

Signed,
No Halo Here
OC Mom

Date: Mon Feb 25 11:44 AM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Let them be. You made bad choices when you were young and you need to let them do it. You are NOT there parent, worry about yourself and your own child. Myspace is Myspace, get over it. This post should be deleted because we all know Myspace has bad photos and inapporiate comments. we dont need to go on kids myspaces and feel a need to tell them, "stay young, be a lady/gentlemen". Come on people, wake up, times are changing but we were there at one point in time. we can't shelter kids but be aware and talk to our kids. Educate them!

Why do I get the feeling this is a kid and not an adult speaking.

Lol...I was thinking the same thing! Spoken like a true teenager! biggrin

Date: Mon Feb 25 12:25 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

I would prefer not to post her link for everyone to see her poor choices in photo selections. That would also imply where we are from and that is not ok. Any advice?

Thank you for not posting the link. Nobody should ever post a link to someone's myspace here, or mention specific details that can be searched on. It is never appropriate to do so. This needs to be handled personally, not publically. Best advice is to mention it to someone who can make a difference in helping them make the right choices (sometimes it's a parent, sometimes it's a good friend or mentor).

Date: Mon Feb 25 5:12 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would prefer not to post her link for everyone to see her poor choices in photo selections. That would also imply where we are from and that is not ok. Any advice?

Thank you for not posting the link. Nobody should ever post a link to someone's myspace here, or mention specific details that can be searched on. It is never appropriate to do so. This needs to be handled personally, not publically. Best advice is to mention it to someone who can make a difference in helping them make the right choices (sometimes it's a parent, sometimes it's a good friend or mentor).

agreed

Date: Mon Feb 25 5:19 PM, 2008

Speaking as a parent: please please please tell me if you notice something that shouldn't be on my daughter's MySpace! My daughter is just starting to truly realize that the things she posts online can affect her in the real world.
I try to monitor it but don't do so everyday and some things slip past me. I may or may not agree that it should be taken off and I don't take offense when someone has pointed things out.

I am a firm believer in the old adage that it takes a village to raise a child.

Date: Mon Feb 25 11:15 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell her how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

Just remember parents.....YOUR KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF YOU whether you like it, control it or not.....Poster you are a grown up and I would assume that you would know how to handle something like this QUIETLY (meaning not asking for advice on a cheer message board!) with the parents or the mom u say you know...and let her handle it in which ever way she chooses.

Date: Tue Feb 26 9:39 AM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell her how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

Just remember parents.....YOUR KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF YOU whether you like it, control it or not.....Poster you are a grown up and I would assume that you would know how to handle something like this QUIETLY (meaning not asking for advice on a cheer message board!) with the parents or the mom u say you know...and let her handle it in which ever way she chooses.

poster there is n9othing wrong with seeking advice on the message boards. You did not indicate anything to anyone who ther child or family is. you have handled it with dignity and respect. it is a hard call when you or your child is close to someone to decide what to do. and asking others for advice gives you other perspectives. their are a lot of kids who readthese boards and you may have just helped some ofthem realize the danger or the concern and they went home and took pictures off. their are tons of parents on the boards and maybe you just helped them realize that they need to check on their kids. you did nothing wrong by asking on a cheer message board. you kept it general and your concern is valid. now all you have to do is decide if it is your place to speak to the parents and how. you can look at some of the reactions on here and it will probably help you in your decision on how to handle it.
thanl you for respecting the family and more importantly the child.
good luck with everything

Date: Tue Feb 26 10:44 AM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell her how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

Just remember parents.....YOUR KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF YOU whether you like it, control it or not.....Poster you are a grown up and I would assume that you would know how to handle something like this QUIETLY (meaning not asking for advice on a cheer message board!) with the parents or the mom u say you know...and let her handle it in which ever way she chooses.

poster there is n9othing wrong with seeking advice on the message boards. You did not indicate anything to anyone who ther child or family is. you have handled it with dignity and respect. it is a hard call when you or your child is close to someone to decide what to do. and asking others for advice gives you other perspectives. their are a lot of kids who readthese boards and you may have just helped some ofthem realize the danger or the concern and they went home and took pictures off. their are tons of parents on the boards and maybe you just helped them realize that they need to check on their kids. you did nothing wrong by asking on a cheer message board. you kept it general and your concern is valid. now all you have to do is decide if it is your place to speak to the parents and how. you can look at some of the reactions on here and it will probably help you in your decision on how to handle it.
thanl you for respecting the family and more importantly the child.
good luck with everything

Parents, please do not be naive and think your child does not have a myspace. So many of them do and you don't know about it! I check my daughter's (and her friends) often. So far, so good. If it changes, it will be gone. At least she is telling me and not lieing about it. I have to approve her friends, her pictures and the comments that are posted. Yes, it is time I don't have to spare but it is worth it. It helps me to be know more about the people in her life that I don't know from school and cheer. I can decide if I want her to be around them or not.

Date: Tue Feb 26 11:24 AM, 2008

Yes, it is time I don't have to spare but it is worth it. It helps me to be know more about the people in her life that I don't know from school and cheer. I can decide if I want her to be around them or not.

Very well said, like a true parent and investigator

I am cheering for you, I do the same thing, MYSPACE is a great tool parents use it. These kids often forget we can get on. Or do what I have done, I have my own myspace and I am so far down on my kids friends list that she and they forget I am on there. I don't even have to log on to her stuff to check her myspace, I can go right on from mine.

Secret Agent MOMMY- That's the term I prefer

Date: Wed Feb 27 8:07 PM, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I just was on a young ladies myspace. Are any other adults seriously disturbed by the type of pictures and comments on these pages? She is not my child so I cannot tell her how to live her life but I am so concerned with the photos and comments it makes me want to call her mother on it. Why do children feel that they have to grow up so fast. Secondly, they should clearly stay in class as the spelling and grammar on some of these pages are in need of serious help.

Just remember parents.....YOUR KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF YOU whether you like it, control it or not.....Poster you are a grown up and I would assume that you would know how to handle something like this QUIETLY (meaning not asking for advice on a cheer message board!) with the parents or the mom u say you know...and let her handle it in which ever way she chooses.

poster there is n9othing wrong with seeking advice on the message boards. You did not indicate anything to anyone who ther child or family is. you have handled it with dignity and respect. it is a hard call when you or your child is close to someone to decide what to do. and asking others for advice gives you other perspectives. their are a lot of kids who readthese boards and you may have just helped some ofthem realize the danger or the concern and they went home and took pictures off. their are tons of parents on the boards and maybe you just helped them realize that they need to check on their kids. you did nothing wrong by asking on a cheer message board. you kept it general and your concern is valid. now all you have to do is decide if it is your place to speak to the parents and how. you can look at some of the reactions on here and it will probably help you in your decision on how to handle it.
thanl you for respecting the family and more importantly the child.
good luck with everything

The reason for my post was to put it out there that it will be very hard now for this mom to go to the other mom and say "hey your daughter has some not so nice pics on her myspace" because EVERYONE is going to know who that family is and that is not respectful in my opinion. Cheer parents talk, gossip whatever you want to call it. I'm sure this mom who posted knew what to do in this case............I think maybe there's more to it...just my thought

She could have posted a global bulletin saying hey parents have you checked your kids myspace lately??? Or Please parents check your kids myspace for inappropriate posting, pics etc something like that... It would have made parents aware without pointing fingers....