So here is my question? We are at a gym with girls who cheer for their school as well and they are frequently missing practice, leaving or coming late. How do most gyms handle this? My concern is that it is unfair to all the other children who have comitted their time to all stars and they are at practice, but unable to practice routines full out because of the other girls missing etc. and even that the team can't progress fairly. it is also frustrating to pay for something and to feel as though you are not getting what you paid for when as a parent do you speak up or is it best to leave it alone? Let the year end and move on? I know that other gyms must have girls who do school cheer and all stars. what is your policy my greatest concern is it is very frustrating not just for the gilrs at parctice but for the parents as well who have paid for competitive cheer. is it the responsibility of the gym to clarify their thoughts on this matter both to the children and the parents of their gym normally i would go to the gym and voice my concern but is it too late in the season to even address the issue? some helpful advice would be appreciated
My daughter cheers for a team with the same type of issue. I understand what you are feeling. My personal opionion would be to just finish out the season this late in the game and talk to your daughter about your thoughts on committment. That is what we have done with our daughter. It is a hard [lace to be in. I totally understand. You don't want to be the nagging parent and you dont want to feel like you are wasting your money. Very difficult place to be! We will finish out our season and not return next season. That way our daughter fulfills her committment and we teach her to finish what she started. It also teaches her that when you are not satisfied with something you have a choice not to return or keep paying for it. What ever you do, do not let your daughter feel like you she is wasting your money. As a parent your sole responsibilty is to your daughter and her well being. My advice is stick it out as long as she is not feeling bad about the situation and then maybe go some place else next season. Just be sure to put that question on the top of your list when looking for a new gym.
As a parent, I would not have that at all!!! Our gym is pretty clear you miss practice you pay and all star is your first priority, if you want to do high school they have to quit. It is not fair to your daughter more than anyone else, people like to be passive
, but honey ALL STAR CHEER IS A SPORT, YOU THINK THE SHORT STOP OR THE RUNNING BACK CAN MISS A GAME!!! Hell no, so why should it be any other way for cheer.
Seriously, I am sad for you and your family to be going through this, you have got a tough choice to make. Good Luck!
As a former director of a program and a cheer parent, I do not think it is ever too late to express or voice a concern. I would let the owner or director of the program know how you feel graciously. By doing this they will know without a doubt why you do not return next season.
Hi school cheer CAN be a sport...depending on what h.s. you go to. I would say that if someone wants to cheer both maybe the coaches of the A.S. team and the H.S team should work together. Or, just get the practice schedules WAY ahead of time and see if it can be done...if not then make a decision...so that way problems like this wont happen.
This topic is quite frustrating for a coach. Our gym is going to be making scheduling changes for next season so that there will be no high school cheer conflicts. now if we could just make sure our cheerleaders all received straight A's, did what their mom and dad always asked them to do, and never were ill or injured so that a practice can be run with a full crew every night, things would be great. Yes, I will wake up from my fantasy and get back to reality. Darn!
You can understand injuries and you can understand illness for missing practices. But to allow cheerleaders in your program to miss practice because they are cheering at their school is a different story. all star cheer is a huge responsibilty for parents children and even coaches. it is simply unfair. every other sport you play requires full attendance. evry other sport you play has a plan for injuries and illness. but to miss practice for any other sport to go play for another team is not allowed. next year may be too late to make changes you have to give in certain situations for required school, family emergencies and even injuries,illness. however not fullfilling your responsibilites or contract as cheerleader and parents should not be allowed. parenst who take a way cheer as punishment is no exception. cheer is not an individual sport it is a team sport and it requires all team members to be at parctice when feasible to build a strong unit.
Well it is well beyond my bed time :) I suggest you go to the gym owner and express your concerns. Like the previous poster said, if you choose not to return at least they will know why. But more importantly maybe they aren't aware that it is an issue for their gym. They can't change things that they are not aware of. It is easiest to go to the source and give them a chance to explain. If you are not happy with what you hear, then you can decide if you want to return next season. But give them a chance. We have cheerleaders who cheer for high school and all stars and even though it is frustrating as a parent, it doesn't seem to bother the kids on my daughter's team. So we don't make an issue of it. Now if my daughter came home frustrated, I would with out a doubt let them know.
You can understand injuries and you can understand illness for missing practices. But to allow cheerleaders in your program to miss practice because they are cheering at their school is a different story. all star cheer is a huge responsibilty for parents children and even coaches. it is simply unfair. every other sport you play requires full attendance. evry other sport you play has a plan for injuries and illness. but to miss practice for any other sport to go play for another team is not allowed. next year may be too late to make changes you have to give in certain situations for required school, family emergencies and even injuries,illness. however not fullfilling your responsibilites or contract as cheerleader and parents should not be allowed. parenst who take a way cheer as punishment is no exception. cheer is not an individual sport it is a team sport and it requires all team members to be at parctice when feasible to build a strong unit.
"I want it all, I want it now!" - this song reminds me of the kids today and the parents wanting to give everything to their kids.
It's the parents and the lack of respect for what a team concept is. It's the parents that sit at home and say I'm to busy to drive you to the gym. It's the parents that cave in to every little whine that the kid throws at them.
==="I don't want to go to cheer practice today, because my eye brow hair is out of place." hahaha ===
Ok, maybe that isn't an excuse you have heard before but what I am saying it take more of a commitment at the household level. Which means perhaps the families need to tell CARLY THE CHEERLEADER (CTC), "no you can't do everything".
Today, it's so easy to put blame on other entities such as the gym owners.
Everyone tells them you have to modify your contracts and make sure parents understand that everyone must live by the same rules, you, the gym owner, needs to disapline my child, because I am the one that says "yes" to CTC, you be the bad guy.
It sounds like it's time to talk to your gym director. There are so many times that parents come to this board looking for the perfect answer. There is no perfect answer here are this board, just opinions. I'm sure they are just as frustrated as you as nationals approach. BYE!
So here is my question? We are at a gym with girls who cheer for their school as well and they are frequently missing practice, leaving or coming late. How do most gyms handle this? My concern is that it is unfair to all the other children who have comitted their time to all stars and they are at practice, but unable to practice routines full out because of the other girls missing etc. and even that the team can't progress fairly. it is also frustrating to pay for something and to feel as though you are not getting what you paid for when as a parent do you speak up or is it best to leave it alone? Let the year end and move on? I know that other gyms must have girls who do school cheer and all stars. what is your policy my greatest concern is it is very frustrating not just for the gilrs at parctice but for the parents as well who have paid for competitive cheer. is it the responsibility of the gym to clarify their thoughts on this matter both to the children and the parents of their gym normally i would go to the gym and voice my concern but is it too late in the season to even address the issue? some helpful advice would be appreciated
Well most girls cheering for school and all stars are usually warmed up by the time they are coming late from a game, so that shouldn't be an issue. Also if someone misses a practice, they are entitled to just like everyone else who misses for appointments, festivals, weddings, family events, dance recitals, school events, school projects, and anything else that falls into that line. People want a perfect world, but it isn't and it might reduce your gym size if you make them choose one or the other. All the top gyms nation wide get the best h.s. cheerleaders in addition to strong athltes to make up their teams.
So here is my question? We are at a gym with girls who cheer for their school as well and they are frequently missing practice, leaving or coming late. How do most gyms handle this? My concern is that it is unfair to all the other children who have comitted their time to all stars and they are at practice, but unable to practice routines full out because of the other girls missing etc. and even that the team can't progress fairly. it is also frustrating to pay for something and to feel as though you are not getting what you paid for when as a parent do you speak up or is it best to leave it alone? Let the year end and move on? I know that other gyms must have girls who do school cheer and all stars. what is your policy my greatest concern is it is very frustrating not just for the gilrs at parctice but for the parents as well who have paid for competitive cheer. is it the responsibility of the gym to clarify their thoughts on this matter both to the children and the parents of their gym normally i would go to the gym and voice my concern but is it too late in the season to even address the issue? some helpful advice would be appreciated
Well most girls cheering for school and all stars are usually warmed up by the time they are coming late from a game, so that shouldn't be an issue. Also if someone misses a practice, they are entitled to just like everyone else who misses for appointments, festivals, weddings, family events, dance recitals, school events, school projects, and anything else that falls into that line. People want a perfect world, but it isn't and it might reduce your gym size if you make them choose one or the other. All the top gyms nation wide get the best h.s. cheerleaders in addition to strong athltes to make up their teams.
it's not that people want a perfect world it's those who have to have bith that seem to want the perfect world. so someone makes a choice to not cheer all stars and cheers hs or the other way around. that is called life. you cant have everything all the time. it is selfish for anyone on ateam to expect others to just deal with it, because the person who is cheering for high school has a game and so now all those other people at you all star gym dont matter. its not ok for gyms to be passive as someone said and not have rules. as far as appointments are concerned most all stars practice in the evening so doctor appointmenst etc are not ususally a concern. the only reasons some one should miss all star practice are family emergency, an illness that requires you to stay home or come required school event death in the family. itherwise its a comittment you make for however many days a week and you should be there period. the problem is most gyms have a policy in effect about missing practices but do not implement them. A WORD TO GYM OWNERS: JUST LIKE THOSE VERY FEW HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS WHO CHEER FOR THEIOR SCHOOL CAN MAKE A CHOICE NOT TO COME BACK IF THEY HAVE TO CHOOSE. SO CAN THOSE 60 PLUS OTHER COMITTED MEMBERS WHO ATTEND PRACTICE ON A REGULAR BASIS AND PAY THEIR MONEY TOO CAN MAKE A CHOICE NOT TO RETURN. my point is, you can lose a few cheerleaders who are not as dedicated and keep holding you back because of other priorties and simply cause strife and discontent amongst the team or you can keep those cheerleaders who chose all stars as their sport and are fully committed. no matter how you see it, its a matter of making a choice dedicating your self to it and fullfilling your obligations. period
